“It’s over, I can’t do this anymore”, that’s what he said to me, I was filled with sadness and almost at the point of tears when I looked up at him and  said; “please let’s try and see how to make it work!”. He looked back at me and said; I don’t think this can work out because YOU ARE NO LONGER THE GIRL I USED TO KNOW. In that instant, just as he walked out of my house and out of my life, I felt helpless; where do I begin to pick up the pieces, I thought aloud. I sat down on the closet couch next to me and remembered how we first met.

I had come to their office to submit a project my company was working on and he was assigned to evaluate the project and give feedback to his company’s board of directors.  I remember how he was very thorough at his job that he practically sent me back to redo the whole thing, I was so angry at him for giving me double work and I thought he hated me but gradually I got to understand that he actually wanted me to put in my best which I subsequently did and the reward was the project being approved. This was the beginning of a beautiful relationship with Sean; he virtually swept me off my feet that I thought I couldn’t live without him.


We were really good together or so I thought, but a year into the relationship, all we did was fight and argue over every little thing. I wanted to please him; I wanted to be there for him whenever he needed me that I forgot that I also have a life filled with my goals, dreams and vision. I forgot what I was passionate about and started doing what he cared about, I started living his life instead of living me, so he was right when he said “you are not the girl I used to know” because I stopped living my life and started living his and the girl he fell in love with was no longer living his life anymore; she was living her life now, she was passionate about what she did, she had goals, dreams and vision. Yeah he was right when he said what he said.

I stood up from where I sat and went to my book shelf to look for my journal. I picked up my journal flipped through it and I looked at where I wrote the goals and vision I wanted to accomplish this year and I had done nothing  as-in absolutely nothing towards  them. I wondered what happened to   me, so right there and then I sat down and restructured my goals and started all over again because no matter what you go through in life you can always rediscover yourself.

Sometimes in life we may lose sight of our goals, dreams or visions. However, there are a number of reasons to follow your dreams and to live the life you’ve always wanted here they are below:

  1. They make your life worth living and help you achieve happiness and fulfillment. Without dreams your life will not have a purpose and your purpose is what gets you up and on even on the worst day. Make a promise to yourself to pursue that goal and you will notice the difference in how you feel.
  2. Not only will you be able to provide for your family, you will also be an inspiration to others. When you fight for your dreams, it becomes difficult for you to fail and you also make sure an income comes along with it; then you can provide for your family. This will give hope to others who want to follow their dreams because you serve as an example and the reason why they should try.
  3. No one is going to pursue your dreams for you and remember you only live once. Every other person has their own dreams and goals so if you don’t go for yours, nobody will. Remember no one lives forever why not spend your life doing what you love.
  4. You also have to know that any goal you set for yourself should be not only achieved but also surpassed.

With all these, I brushed myself off the dirt of disappointment and challenged myself to do better for myself by putting in the grit to achieve my goals and set targets knowing that doing this will give me a satisfaction incomparable and make me even more attractive both within and without.

Do better for yourself today.

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