You know that feeling when you open your eyes in the morning and you’re immediately accosted with the feel of pleasantness. Well, that was me today.
I woke up with a goody bag of positive energy saying “today was going to be a good, productive and beautiful day”. You know… all those stuff some motivational speakers say we should do.
I did all I had to do at home in a flash so I could hit the road just in time to catch up with a 10 am appointment all for me to turn on my ignition and the car wouldn’t start. Damn!!! This was not the time to start tracing the fault.
I hurriedly got a cab and headed out for my appointment, but just as I was about to relax and mentally steady myself, the cab guy started lamenting about the situation of Nigeria, the horrible roads, unstable power supply, the bad educational system and all other issues wrong with the country that I was all too familiar with. I was still like NO; this is not going to kill my positive vibe.
I got to the office and the secretary was straight-up rude to me and giving off a whole lot of negative energy. I took a deep breath and chanted in my mind one of my favorite quotes… “You cannot control someone’s attitude towards you but you can control your attitude towards others” bottom line, how someone treats you is their problem, not yours.
She later directed me to the reception where I had to wait for another six hours to see the chairman, but guess what? My morale still dey kampe. I just believed it was still going to be a good day. At last, I was called upon for the meeting with the chairman, which he; after viewing my proposal unfortunately turned down.
As I stepped out of the office all effort to stay positive failed woefully; I was crushed. I just kept thinking of my car, the wasted day and the hours I spent waiting for nothing. But just as I was about to fast forward into self-pity/depression mode, I remembered one of Joyce Meyer’s favorite sayings, “you can’t be pitiful and powerful at the same time, you have to choose one”.
I immediately snapped out of it. I refused to wallow in self-pity. I am a strong, powerful, alpha female; I declared. I also got to understand what Maya Angelou meant when she said; “you may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from and how you can rise from it.
In life we are often faced with negative situations that we don’t expect, don’t think we deserve and we don’t plan for, then we look for whom to blame or complain to and keep wishing we did things different
From my studies, I gathered that there are three are 3 ways to stay positive when faced with tough situations. They are;
- Choose a positive attitude over a negative one and accept a situation. Your mind can only focus on one thing at a time. So, choose the positive over the negative.
- Accept the situation: the sooner you accept the situation the sooner you figure out the solution. Do not cling to the fact that it should have been done this way or you don’t deserve it, this will prevent you from thinking of a solution.
- Learn from the negative learn from the negative situation and look for ways to prevent such from happening in the future, if it’s your mistake, accept; learn from it and move on. Train your mind to control the situation never allow it to control you or your actions
Albert Einstein said “In the middle of difficulties lie opportunity.”
I went back to the drawing table, with a positive mindset to figure how to present a much better proposal I am going to learn from my mistake and focus on the opportunity not the obstacle as whatever you focus on expands. I will keep my eye on my goal and the prize awaiting me, steadily moving towards forward with a positive attitude which is an everyday attitude
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So guys, share your experiences of how your day crumbled before your eyes and how you managed to stay encouraged and forge ahead. I’m eager to hear from you.